Being a parent is a blessing, but it’s far from being the easiest thing in the world! On the contrary, even the nicest of kids can make parents lose their cool, and that’s when everyone gets upset and starts crying. The worst thing about these situations, though, is that they can be easily avoided – you just need to know what’s going on with your children and how you can help them. You also need to remember to stay calm, no matter how hard that may seem at times, and if you need some help learning how to do that, here are a few tips that might help you.
Count to ten
This may sound like the oldest and most generic trick in the book, but it’s a surprisingly effective idea as well. Counting to ten will help you calm down, collect yourself, and stay cool in all sorts of difficult situations, including those stressful situations with your children. So, whenever you feel a rush of rage coming your way, remember to count to ten, very slowly and peacefully, and by the time you’re done, you’ll forget all about your rage.
However, unlike most difficult situations where counting to ten can help you solve the problem completely, a lot can happen in ten seconds when you’re surrounded by kids. If you spend this time counting and not paying attention to them, they might get into trouble or do something that will agitate you even more. This is why you have to pay attention to them while calming down, and that’s never easy!
Recognize your triggers
Another great way to calm down in stressful situations is by knowing what’s making you uneasy in the first place. These triggers come in all shapes and sizes, and not all parents react to the same situations in the same way. That’s why knowing your triggers is crucial, especially if you wish to stop losing your temper every single day and spend all your time screaming at your kids.
From bad attitude to meaningless cries and everything in between – the number of potential triggers is massive! All kids do something that annoys their parents, whether they want to admit it or not, and these are the things that are usually the reason why parents lose their cool. But, if you accept them for what they are and start paying more attention to them, these triggers will help you relax and react more appropriately.
Talk to other parents
Being a parent often means feeling completely misunderstood and unable to talk to anyone else but yourself and your partner. Nobody knows what you’re going through except the people who are around you and who are witnessing your struggle every single day. However, you’d be surprised to hear that others can understand you and help you stay calm.
In other words, every other parent in the world will know what’s going on in your life because they’re all facing more or less the same situations every single day. Therefore, finding them will help you learn more about being a parent and finding ways to stay collected while facing struggles. The informative Mumli motherhood app, for instance, will connect you to lots of different moms out there who will share their stories with you and hear you out, and that’s something all parents need today!
Think about your children
Kids can make you lose your mind – but you can’t forget that they’re just kids! You’re the adult and you’re the one who’s supposed to be calm and collected, while your children are supposed to be loud and needy. That’s something you need to remember during your stressful moments and think about what’s best for your kids – yelling at them or talking to them calmly.
Talking to your loved ones is sometimes impossible, especially during their wild moments, but it’s better to let them cool down and remain rational yourself instead of losing your composure. Anger and abuse don’t do anyone any good, and no matter how hard it is to be calm, just think about your kids and their well-being.
Acting rationally and being collected around your kids is sometimes hard, but acting differently and being abusive is the last thing you need to do. So, take a moment and chill – and just remember how much you love your kids!
By Emma Joyce